***STRENGTH**GET STRONG**POWER**SELF CONTROL**LIFE***
Has anyone ever told you to get mad at it. Fight it. Feel the fear and do it anyways. You're tired of feeling this way, SO GET MAD AT IT! Focus on change. Stay focused. Persevere
Remember, change has to be done slowly in steps and not all at once, so grab a calendar and write down some dates when you are available to make one specific change.
Here a bunch of stuff I do to pick me up and ready for the next day. Put on a CD with variety of songs or your Ipod and clean up around you, organize a dresser drawer, color, draw, etc.
And why not give this a try and see if it helps to fill the void and help you to rediscover yourself.
1. Choose 5 different hairstyles in a Hair Magazine. Go to Salon. Pick hairstyle with Stylist. Add 'Face Framing' Hi-lights if suggested.
2. Make appointment with Esthetician for consult. Consult on hair removal, eyebrow shaping, bikini or brazilian wax, etc.
If you have your own nails, think about a manicure. You can do it at home, but you do need to schedule a day and time and stick to it.
If you don't have your own nails, start saving up to try 3 months with acrylic tips (Approx $55.00 to put on....4-5 weeks later needs a fill approx $35.00 and then again in another 4-5 weeks). Yes, men do tips too if they are nail biters. No gloss polish (matte).
3. Find a Hip & Classy Store. Ask one of the clerks to assist you with one new look Casual, Sporty, Sharp, etc. or a few looks to cover different categories, events, etc. (1 dress, 1 black skirt, etc.)
4. Find something that you are passionate about or would like to become passionate about. ie. learn to teach step aerobics, learn boxercise, take judo or tae kwon do, animal welfare, spinning classes, water aerobics, swimming, martial arts, self defense, walking with poles, senior visits, etc. It should be something that exerts you and exhilerates you.
5. Get yourself strong, toned, & fit. If you are overweight, then there are more lifestyle changes that you can make to help you with this. (ie 6 mini meals a day)
6. Challenge yourself to do it. (ie. making polymer clay animals ornaments, chokers, knitting hip bags, making useful items out of wood, get a Bunny and train it indoors see youtube ~ Bailey Bunny. Lots of men, women, girls and boys have Bunnies for companions.
7. Grab a binder/notebook and fill it with magazine clippings, photos, journaling, print outs, etc. sports, strong men, etc. Decorate it. Add your poems, essays, blogs, put your touch on it, it's your book that you can do whatever you want, say whatever, etc.
8. Turn your experience into a blog. Have questions and answers. Have a list of do's instead of's. Help those who are in your position but not as strong as you. Show them a different direction to go. Give them ideas to pursue based on personalities, etc.
*LASTLY, each day you get up, be cheerful and silly with yourself. It'll be easier if you have a bunny, but practice.
*Each day you will bath/shower, shampoo hair, wash fash, brush teeth, cover up any imperfections. Experiment with styling your hair different on 5 days.
If you have short hair, it can be a challenge....you DON'T need to like the styles, it's just to change things up a bit. (ie wet, dry, parted left, parted right, combed back, combed forward, wings, no wings, etc.)
*It's a journey that you are going to create for yourself, but make a promise to yourself to TRY. It doesn't mean you can't have a few days to go BLAH, but make an effort to pick yourself up.
*Eventually, you may be able to arrange a Girls Night with Self Defense Instructors. It's a great time with girlfriends and enemies...I know, but it can actually bond you with those who you would never think it would happen in a million light years.
You are the only one in control to make changes and you know you can do small changes in steps and not all at once. Take the steps in weeks rather days or hours and slowly take account with photos.
Someone asked why getting "skinny" would help protect them against bullies; it doesn't. Taking care of your health, body, persona, and integrity is what helps protect you against bullies. It's your journey to being positive about yourself, being in control of yourself, and defining your personal strength will help you avoid a confrontation.
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