Everyone has there own sense of style, inner beauty, and personal hygiene routines. You don't need to change who you are, but you do need to maintain all the good within you. Our outside reflection actually is greatly affected by our inward reflection.
I know that many will read this and think that this is all about looks or the plastic side of beauty, but that isn't the purpose of some of the exercises below. I don't want you to change anything about yourself unless you want to make that change. I also don't want you to miss out on the opportunity to change certain areas in your life that maybe you didn't know how to go about it.
You'll need to do some stuff to boost your esteem in steps. Try using a poster board and cut out all the things you like, want, are curious about, etc. and glue it to the board. The poster is YOU, so have fun with it. Add your sense of style and flair. You can do several boards for different categories like Hair, Make Up, Exercise (Outfits, Style, Yoga, Cycling, etc.), Future Aspriations & Occupations, Towns & Cities to Visit or Live, etc.
1. Pick up a hair magazine with various hairstyles for your hair. Flip through it and finds 5 styles that you like and they must be for different shaped faces to for variety.
The next time you go to the hair salon, bring the magazine and show the folded pages to the stylist and ask her which one she thinks would suit you and see if you can follow through. You could have a few face framing high lights or low lights depending on the stylist recommendations for a change.
2. Find a place with an esthetician. Set up an appointment with an esthetician to do a consult. She/he will take a look at your body and see if there are areas that could use hair removal, trimming or color.
If you have your own nails, think about a manicure. You can do it at home, but you do need to schedule a day and time and stick to it. If you have a nail or two that's either thin, chipping or snagged, you can always ask an esthetician to either put a coat of acrylic or gel to overcoat the nail. This will give it a chance to catch up in length to your other nails.
If you don't have your own nails, start saving up to try 3 months with acrylic tips (Approx $55.00 to put on....4-5 weeks later needs a fill approx $35.00 and then again in another 4-5 weeks). Yes, men do tips too if they are nail biters. No gloss polish (matte).
3. Pick a classy store that isn't expensive. See if there is an outfit already put together on a manican and whether it would suit you or ask one of the clerks if she could assist you with one new look Casual, Sporty, Sharp, etc. or a few looks to cover different categories, events, etc.
4. Find something that you are passionate about or would like to become passionate about. ie. learn to teach step aerobics, learn boxercise, take judo or tae kwon do, spinning classes, water aerobics, swimming, martial arts, self defense, walking with poles, etc. It should be something that exerts you and exhilerates you...try a spinning class for example.
5. Get yourself strong. Try going to the gym 3 days each week or 5 and alternate upper body then lower body the opposite day. See how toned and buff you can get yourself.
If you are overweight, then there are more lifestyle changes that you can make to help you with this. (ie 6 mini meals a day)
6. Challenge yourself to do it. (ie. making polymer clay animals ornaments chokers, knitting hip bags, making useful items out of wood, get a Bunny and train it indoors see youtube ~ Bailey Bunny. Lots of men, women, girls and boys have Bunnies for companions.
7. Grab a binder/notebook and fill it with magazine clippings, photos, journaling, print outs, etc. sports, strong men, etc. Decorate it. Add your poems, essays, blogs, put your touch on it, it's your book that you can do whatever you want, say whatever, etc.
8. Turn your experience into a blog. Have questions and answers. Have a list of do's instead of's. Help those who are in your position but not as strong as you. Show them a different direction to go. Give them ideas to pursue based on personalities, etc.
*LASTLY, each day you get up, be cheerful and silly with yourself. It'll be easier if you have a pet (bunny, fish, gerbil, etc) but practice.
*Each day you will bath/shower, shampoo hair, wash fash, brush teeth, cover up any imperfections. Experiment with styling your hair different on 5 days. If you have short hair, it can be a challenge....you DON'T need to like the styles, it's just to change things up a bit. (ie wet, dry, parted left, parted right, combed back, combed forward, wings, no wings, etc.)
*It's a journey that you are going to create for yourself, but make a promise to yourself to TRY. It doesn't mean you can't have a few days to go BLAH, but make an effort to pick yourself up.
*Eventually, you may be able to arrange a Girls Night with Self Defense Instructors. It's a great time with girlfriends and enemies...I know, but it can actually bond you with those who you would never think it would happen in a million light years.
You are the only one in control to make changes and you know you can do small changes in steps and not all at once. Take the steps in weeks rather days or hours and slowly take account with photos.
Eventually, you may be able to arrange a Girls Night with Self Defense Instructors. It's a great time with girlfriends and enemies...I know, but it can actually bond you with those who you would never think it would happen in a million light years.
You are the only one in control to make changes and you know you can do small changes in steps and not all at once. Take the steps in weeks rather days or hours and slowly take account with photos.
